One of the easiest things to do when you’re faced with tribulations, is to give up. No matter how difficult perseverance may be, it takes little to no effort to make the decision to stop trying. There will be certain situations that won’t be worthy of your time, but differentiating when you’re giving up too soon vs. walking away, is very important. The two may seem similar, but there is a huge difference.
I won’t try and make it seem like making these decisions should be easy. In fact, walking away from something or someone that you’ve invested a lot of time and energy into can be frightening. Guilt has a way of creeping in, and it will begin to make you question if giving up or walking away will make you seem disloyal, fake, or impatient. These are all common feelings.
What most don’t realize, is sometimes it is more damaging to hold on for dear life, than it is to simply give yourself the peace you deserve by walking away. After all, your peace is for YOU. The last thing you should do is worry about what others may think. So, what is the difference in giving up and walking away?
It’s no secret that the breakup, but more specifically, divorce rates are sky high right now. One thing that I know for sure, is that no matter how much love there is in a friendship or relationship, there is bound to be disagreements. There is bound to be times when you aren’t fond of one another. However, I have found that a lot of relationships don’t last, simply because both parties are not willing to make it work. Instead of looking towards the future, they get so caught up in their “right now feelings.”
My marriage is far from perfect. He has hurt my feelings, and I have hurt his. There have been times where we both questioned if continuing the marriage is the best decision for us both. Instead of letting go of everything we have built together, splitting up our family, and going through that nasty divorce process, we had to weigh out the good and the bad. The good outweighed the bad tremendously!
There is no relationship that is ever going to be perfect. Choosing to give up before you have exhausted all options, will only leave you regretting and second guessing your decision. By the time you can admit your mistake, the other person has probably moved on, and in my Nene Leakes voice – the door is closed!
Walking away from toxic people or situations is not something that is easy to do. For me, I used to stick around in toxic friendships and relationships because of how much time and energy I put into it. I felt like I “owed” my loyalty to others, when they didn’t appreciate or genuinely care to begin with. If we can be honest, morality has changed.
Everybody is all about looking out for themselves. As you should, but what happens when you find yourself dishing out more than what they give? What happens when you find yourself crying in a relationship more than you’re smiling? A year ago, I couldn’t give you an answer. Now that I have a doctorate in cutting leaches off, I can tell you. You walk away! Everyone has a different perspective on their self-worth, but it’s imperative that you know yours. Know that everybody doesn’t deserve you. Know that you are a jewel, and only the deserving can get close to you.
After you’ve done all that you can do, walk away proudly knowing that you tried everything in your power to make things right. Once you walk away, the peace that you will experience will be unimaginable! Never let someone break you all the way down before you stand up for yourself and what you deserve. Things always get greater later! You just have to take that first step. Your intuition will never lead you wrong.
Which do you think is harder? Giving up? Or walking away?